Life with a Newborn...AGAIN: The Changing of the Tide

The moment you pass the frustration and constand demand of being a built in soup kitchen!!!!!!!!!!

Being a mom of three (7yrs, 5yrs & 4 months) is challenging...to say the least lol, although each day is teaching me IT's do-able and it DOES get easier (depending on the day)!

Well, this time around I am nursing exclusively!  We supplemented with our last two! It is VERY different! For about three and a half months..............

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Sooooo...just to paint the picture of what "Life with a newborn was like....I started writing this when my son was 4 months....And he is now.....3 years old 😂😂😂!!! Good job to me 👏! A lot has happened since October of 2013....but I can't fill you in right now!!! Who knows, maybe now that the children are older, I'll have a little more time to write! But as for this moment -- It's 8:39am, I came home a bit ago from dropping the girls off at school, and now...well I'm back in the bed....about to take a much needed nap before I get up, be mommy and wife and then play catch up on some homework 📚! Yes..it's really been too long!!! I'll fill you in soon! Until then...Happy Parenting! 

Mie~😜👍

When I Grow Up...

When I grow up, I will NEVER be like my... Sound familiar?  Who did you vow to NEVER be like?  For me it was my mother.  Those words rang so loud out of my mouth, often; for various reasons! I felt she was mean, for no reason and I felt she didn't listen to me or value my feelings!

Now that I am older though, I don't hold it against her...I understand much of my mothers behavior wasn't completely her fault!  Behaviors pass down through generations.  Emotions, good and bad; cloud judgment and past hurts breed anger, resentment, bitterness and in many cases, depression!

I dare to believe that my mother probably vowed to never be like her mother as well!  I am aware that I don't even know the half of my mother's childhood, although I have heard stories!  I would also like to believe that being the daughter of an alcoholic mother wasn't a walk on a bed of rose petals! 

So...How about you?  Who was it for you? With all of the vows you made, did they work?  Are you at all any different, from the one you worked so hard not to be like?  Are you even trying to be different!  Well I dare to break the curse!  I DECLARE and DECREE that it stops right here!  As challenging as it is, to recognize the similarities and then do something to change them!  Here is how I have begun to be different from what I hated:

1) I apologize to my 7 & 5 year old when I'm wrong.

i.e.. I yelled at my 7 year old daughter and made her cry because I was overwhelmed and frustrated, while helping her with homework. After I calmed down, I apologized to her and explained to (yes my 7 year old) why I yelled at her. That she is intelligent and her lack of focus can cause teachers to mislabel her.

2) I give my children lots of hugs, kisses and positive, affirmative words. 

i.e. I tell them how smart they are. What a great job they are doing. I let them know it's ok to make mistakes but to learn from them and I compliment them.

Now this last one I haven't done yet but it's next on my list of "To Do's"...

3) Really studying and learning each of them.

i.e. By regularly asking them "What's new in your life?", "What's your favorite color?", "What do you think about school?", "Are you happy?", "Do you like me?" Etc...Don't get me wrong, I KNOW my children are not going to want to throw me a "Mommy is the best party" everyday...especially if I'm doing my job half right; with the leading of The Lord!  I strive for a healthy relationship with each of them!  

I pray for each of us right now! I pray that we be reminded of what we hate and hated growing up, that others did and do to us! Then show us Lord, the areas that WE do those very same things.  Prick our hearts and let us see the more in our own eyes in Jesus Name! Help us to not make the same mistakes as those who may have hurt us! Lord we know that hurt people, hurt people...So Lord, HEAL OUR HURT...So that we don't pass it on in Jesus Name! Amen!