Tuesday, October 22, 2013
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
When I Grow Up...
When I grow up, I will NEVER be like my... Sound familiar? Who did you vow to NEVER be like? For me it was my mother. Those words rang so loud out of my mouth, often; for various reasons! I felt she was mean, for no reason and I felt she didn't listen to me or value my feelings!
Now that I am older though, I don't hold it against her...I understand much of my mothers behavior wasn't completely her fault! Behaviors pass down through generations. Emotions, good and bad; cloud judgment and past hurts breed anger, resentment, bitterness and in many cases, depression!
I dare to believe that my mother probably vowed to never be like her mother as well! I am aware that I don't even know the half of my mother's childhood, although I have heard stories! I would also like to believe that being the daughter of an alcoholic mother wasn't a walk on a bed of rose petals!
So...How about you? Who was it for you? With all of the vows you made, did they work? Are you at all any different, from the one you worked so hard not to be like? Are you even trying to be different! Well I dare to break the curse! I DECLARE and DECREE that it stops right here! As challenging as it is, to recognize the similarities and then do something to change them! Here is how I have begun to be different from what I hated:
1) I apologize to my 7 & 5 year old when I'm wrong.
i.e.. I yelled at my 7 year old daughter and made her cry because I was overwhelmed and frustrated, while helping her with homework. After I calmed down, I apologized to her and explained to (yes my 7 year old) why I yelled at her. That she is intelligent and her lack of focus can cause teachers to mislabel her.
2) I give my children lots of hugs, kisses and positive, affirmative words.
i.e. I tell them how smart they are. What a great job they are doing. I let them know it's ok to make mistakes but to learn from them and I compliment them.
Now this last one I haven't done yet but it's next on my list of "To Do's"...
3) Really studying and learning each of them.
i.e. By regularly asking them "What's new in your life?", "What's your favorite color?", "What do you think about school?", "Are you happy?", "Do you like me?" Etc...Don't get me wrong, I KNOW my children are not going to want to throw me a "Mommy is the best party" everyday...especially if I'm doing my job half right; with the leading of The Lord! I strive for a healthy relationship with each of them!
I pray for each of us right now! I pray that we be reminded of what we hate and hated growing up, that others did and do to us! Then show us Lord, the areas that WE do those very same things. Prick our hearts and let us see the more in our own eyes in Jesus Name! Help us to not make the same mistakes as those who may have hurt us! Lord we know that hurt people, hurt people...So Lord, HEAL OUR HURT...So that we don't pass it on in Jesus Name! Amen!
Saturday, August 10, 2013
A Change in Perspective...
Good Day Kingdom Women & Wives,
I realize this is not for everyone but I Praise God that who it is for will receive it completely! As I lay here in my bed reflecting on motherhood and wifehood...I think back on the days of my first two children some 5/6 years ago and I remember not liking the fact that I had to be pulled into many different directions. Not liking the fact that I had to be divided in many mental and somewhat physical pieces...The pieces that nursed, changed pampers, washed clothes, fed the family, worked, cleaned up after everyone, the church congregant, friend, daughter and last but not, certainly not least...The wife! The wife who NEEDED to fulfill her womanly duties to her husband...HELLO SOMEBODY LOL!
Well in reflecting and now after recently celebrating 8 years of marriage and now newly celebrating the birth of our third child, NOW am beginning to realize that my PERSPECTIVE was SO off! I used to get upset with my husband and God, that my husbands sexual appetite was so much more advanced than mine and that he required a lot more attention in that area, than I did....I now see and understand some things I didn't before...like...(Go with me, as I shift gears and declare what I am now understanding over you)
*YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
*YOU ARE SEXY
*THE WAY YOU WALK TURNS HIM ON
*THE WAY YOU TALK TURNS HIM ON
*YOUR BODY IS BEING ACKNOWLEDGED AS ART...DESIGNED JUST...FOR...HIM...AND HIM
ALONE...
*HE WANTS YOU...
*HE WANTS YOU...
*HE WANTS YOU...
Change your perspective! Ask God to help you change your perspective! also ask God to provide you with the STRENGTH and ENERGY to enjoy your husband! As well as, asking Him to show you the perfect opportunities to steal some "quickies" lol! He Wants You and you only! Aren't you glad that he wants you? But If he has stopped desiring you, then you need to go into prayer right now because we now have a problem and I intercede for you both right now!
Lord Restore this couple through the one reading this, shift her perspective, allow her to see, realize and know that she DESERVES PLEASURE...Yes You Lord have created us to know PLEASURE and You desire for us to know that PLEASURE in right standing and in Covenant with our OWN HUSBANDS! Break the curse of infidelity and restore their minds, hearts and homes in Jesus Name Amen!
Many say sex was designed for multiplication only...But check out what Sarah said in Genesis 18:12:
Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, After I am waxed old shall I have PLEASURE, my lord being old also? (KJV)
You were designed and created to have pleasure...with your husband...Ask The Lord to give you a Healthy DESIRE for your husband sexually/physically and remember...It's a blessing that he wants YOU!
~ CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE ~
Mie~
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